Mentors Are Not Unicorns—So Stop Searching for One!
One perfect mentor? Nope, just unicorns and fairytales. 🦄
Ever heard someone say, “I just need the right mentor to guide me!” as if the perfect, all-knowing sage is out there, waiting to magically solve all their life problems?
Yeah, no. That’s not how this works.
Mentors are NOT unicorns. There isn’t one mystical person who will show up, sprinkle wisdom dust over your life, and suddenly make everything click. (If you find one, let me know—I’d like to hire them too!) Instead, mentorship is like building an all-star team of advisors, each with their own strengths, insights, and specialties.
I’ve been lucky to have multiple mentors throughout my life—each one teaching me something valuable. Some helped me become a better leader. Others gave me career-saving advice. And one even taught me how to talk to my teenager without them rolling their eyes into another dimension. (More on that later.)
So, if you’ve been waiting for the perfect mentor, stop. Instead, start curating your dream team of mentors—because different stages of life require different guides.
Meet Your Mentorship Squad
1. The Peer Mentor: Your Partner in Crime
Sometimes, you don’t need an “expert”—you need someone in the trenches with you.
A peer mentor is someone at a similar stage in life or career who just gets what you’re going through. I’ve had peer mentors help me navigate tricky workplace situations, and trust me—sometimes the best advice comes from someone sitting right next to you, not from the executive in the corner office.
Peer mentors are great for:
✅ Real-time problem-solving
✅ Mutual support & motivation
✅ Keeping each other accountable
2. The Organizational Management Mentor: Mastering the Art of Leading People
Managing people is like herding cats—except the cats have opinions, career goals, and office politics to navigate. That’s why having an organizational management mentor is a game-changer.
A great management mentor doesn’t just teach you how to lead—they teach you how to create an environment where people thrive. They help you balance strategy, emotional intelligence, and productivity while keeping your team engaged.
For me, Tiffany Newhouse played that role. She helped me refine my leadership skills, improve strategic thinking, and make better decisions under pressure.
Organizational management mentors are great for:
✅ Learning how to manage teams effectively
✅ Improving decision-making and communication
✅ Keeping you from becoming that micromanaging boss
3. The Parenting Mentor: Mastering the 60 Second Rule
Ah, parenting—a job with no manual, plenty of chaos, and endless opportunities to say the wrong thing.
One of the BEST parenting tips I ever got was from a mentor who taught me the 60 second rule: when you need to tell your teenager something they don’t want to hear, keep it under 60 seconds. Say it, keep it simple, and then walk away. No nagging, no long lectures, no dramatic monologues.
Game. Changer.
Parenting mentors are great for:
✅ Surviving teenage mood swings
✅ Learning what ACTUALLY works (from experience)
✅ Keeping your sanity intact
4. The Management Mentor: Boss Mode Activated
Being a good boss isn’t about power—it’s about people. And I had the best management mentors in Tamar Allen, Maria Anhalt, Greg Young and Karen Kotecki.
They taught me some golden rules:
🔹 Lead with empathy.
🔹 Listen first, talk second.
🔹 Give people room to grow.
🔹 Protect your team from unnecessary corporate nonsense.
🔹 And for the love of all things good, DO NOT micromanage.
Management mentors are great for:
✅ Becoming the boss people want to work for
✅ Learning how to lead with integrity
✅ Creating an environment where people thrive
5. The Growth-Minded Friend: Your Expansion Buddy
You know that one friend who always pushes you to go after bigger goals, dream bigger, and stop playing small? That’s your personal growth mentor.
You NEED people in your circle who challenge you, introduce you to new ideas, and help you become the best version of yourself. Growth doesn’t happen in isolation—so surround yourself with people who are also striving for more.
Growth-minded mentors are great for:
✅ Pushing you outside your comfort zone
✅ Helping you see new perspectives
✅ Keeping you motivated when you want to quit
The Mentor You’re Missing: A Life Coach
Here’s the thing—while having different mentors is amazing, not everyone has access to the right people at the right time. That’s where a life coach comes in.
Unlike mentors, who often provide guidance based on their experiences, a life coach helps you uncover your own solutions by giving you the tools, strategies, and mindset shifts to move forward. A life coach can help you:
✨ Gain clarity in times of transition
✨ Overcome roadblocks holding you back
✨ Create a plan to achieve your personal and professional goals
✨ Stay accountable so you don’t get stuck in a cycle of thinking instead of doing
✨ Challenge old patterns and replace them with ones that actually serve you
Think of a life coach as the mentor who helps you connect all the dots—your career, relationships, personal growth, and overall life vision.
Stop Searching—Start Building Your Mentorship Team
Instead of waiting for one magical mentor to appear, start building your personal board of directors—people you can turn to for career advice, leadership guidance, parenting wisdom, or just a pep talk when life gets tough.
✨ Want to grow as a leader? Find an organizational or management mentor.
✨ Need career advice? Connect with a peer mentor.
✨ Trying to survive parenting? Seek out those who have been there.
✨ Looking to level up personally? Surround yourself with growth-minded people.
✨ Need a mentor who helps you bring all these areas together? Hire a life coach.
If you’re in a transition, feeling stuck, or just know you’re capable of more but don’t know how to get there—I’d love to help.
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